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Just so ya know…

I slept on my feelings about something so that I could make sure I was thinking clearly and not being too bitchy when I wrote this post.

Since I generally do not like to cause or be the cause of drama for anyone, I’m going to put this out here for the world to see.   I posted something on Sunday that seemed to stir up a hornets nest.  People emailed someone thinking I was talking about them.  You’re wrong.  Whoever you are that emailed this person to ask if I was talking about them.  You were wrong.  I wasn’t talking about that person.  The person I WAS talking about approached me and it’s worked out.  So you know who you are when I say I’m sorry it caused you heartburn.  There has never been any intent to cause you harm.

To everyone else reading this blog:  If you think you know who I post about when I post about stuff, you are most likely wrong in your assumption.  See, here’s the thing, before I started blogging in 2006, I had a life.  And, contrary to what a lot of people think, I still have one outside of this here computer.  So, I have tons of real life friends I talk to, interact with and what not.  Yeah, my social life is a little lacking since I moved, but it’s improving (right along with me!)

Every post I’ve ever posted about a friend on here was not intentionally meant as passive aggressive, snarky or cryptic to anyone in my online world.  However, some of my readers seem to think they know whom I speak of when I do post about friendships and what I believe they are, or whatever the case may be.  I find this strange, since I have yet to speak to anyone in my online world about any other friend I have in the online world.  I have not spoken negatively about anyone in my circle, nor do I have plans to.

I have to tell you I HATE the fact drama has seeped into my little online world.  Because really?  I’m 40 years old and I don’t have time for the bullshit that people create and think they know.

I come to this blog to express MY feelings.  I don’t express your feelings.  I don’t assume your feelings.  I express myself to the best of my ability so that I can work through whatever junk I’m carrying.   And I have always believed there are three sides to every story.  There is this side, that side and the right side.  The truth is always found somewhere in the middle of this and that.  And unless you live my life for me, you don’t know where I stand on issues with anything or anyone (unless, of course, I come here to express myself).  Just because I express my feelings here, does NOT mean I’m in the right or the only one who is correct.  All I’m doing is expressing my feelings.

I have an old friend in Vegas, R, who really hurt me and we had a painful parting of the ways shorlty after Todd died.  Most of my shit I post out here is about her or my friend K (who is also in Vegas).

Unfortunately, people on the internet don’t know me as well as they think they do.  Because to assume that I would intentionally hurt someone I consider a friend is so incredibly full of shit, I don’t know how to express what I’m thinking.  Seriously, you people have known me for 3, maybe 4 years.  I show you a certain side of me.  You don’t know the real me.  There are very few in my online world who do know any part of the real me.

If you seem to think you know who I am talking about on this blog, just remember you are wrong 9 outta 10 times.  And even on that 10th time, you’re probably wrong too.

So again, to anyone who was hurt, maligned or given heartburn over that post of mine of Sunday (oh, did I mention that is worked out between the person and I?) I apologize.   I, in no way, meant to hurt you or cause you drama.

Until next time…

7 Responses to “Just so ya know…”

  • Avitable says:

    So what you’re saying is that you were talking about me, right? Well, fine. Harumph.

    😀

  • Miss Britt says:

    Woah.

    a) I’M SO IMPRESSED WITH MYSELF THAT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT!! The steps I’m taking to stop me from seeing drama are working!!! WOO HOO!!!

    *ahem*

    Sorry about that. Back to YOU on YOUR blog:

    b) Again, woah. Sounds like you’re feeling really frustrated about having people misinterpret your words or intentions – which is a hot button I can understand. So, yuck and sorry you were feeling like that and hope getting it off your chest relieved some of that frustration for you.

  • Sodapop says:

    Avitable, of course I was! Pfft. 😉

    Miss Britt, I tend to ignore most drama unless it involves me directly or something touches a part of me that feels it necessary to step in. I couldn’t keep my head in the sand with this one because someone dear to me was hurt and that makes me angry. Yes, I do feel better, even though I don’t think it will fix it.

  • Miss Britt says:

    I think I’ve finally had to learn how to live with the fact that I don’t seem to have an internal “ignore” button. Heh.

    Again, so sorry someone you care about was hurt. :-(

    • Sodapop says:

      Miss Britt, it’s really hard to find that “ignore” button. I don’t know that I have one either. lol owell :) It is what it is.

      Thank you :)

  • Ginger says:

    Wow, I SO could have written this post myself. Loved it. It truly resonates with many emotions I’ve been feeling. I hope you feel empowered by putting these thoughts into writing (so eloquently, might I add.).

  • Sodapop says:

    Ginger, “empowered” is a good word. It felt good handing the resentment back. Although I didn’t know who exactly the resentment was towards, it was good to let it go :) thank you!